A Plea for Passion

Passion for learning can’t always be contained in a chair.

I am nothing if not passionately passionate about what I do.  If you’ve never met me in person and asked me a question like, “What do you think about the state of early childhood education in the United States?” or “What is your opinion about play-based vs. academically oriented preschools?” or possibly, “Can you give me some advice about dealing with crying? or eating? or what gear I need for a new baby?” then you have yet to truly encounter passion.  I found my passion by way of the middle school math classroom: a beautiful and fantastic place where I imagined spending my entire career.  But life circumstances offered me an opportunity to switch gears from thirteen-year-olds to thirteen-month-olds, and my life will never be the same.

Somewhere in the switch, I defined one of my life passions: a passion for learning about learning, and engaging with learners in their optimal language.  I am passionate about teaching others about learning, and help them engage with learners in a likewise manner.  Trust me, the smiles are great, the hugs and unconditional love are fantastic, but none of these gifts of childhood would sustain me long term.

So I decided pen the language that the children speak to my soul.  As parents and care providers, I would ask us all to consider why it is that we do what we do.  Every day is not rainbows and butterflies - we have toilet misses and skinned knees and paint fiascos all while lunch is past due.  And don’t mistake passion for excitement and happiness — passion is authenticity, passion is vulnerability, passion is real.  If I did not feel passionately committed to the work that I do, these long days would be the end of my early childhood career.  Luckily for me, I have found a calling to a career that ignites my passion…and here is why:

Adapting explorations for all ages

1.  Children are born problem solvers, and with the right support, I can grow this skill.  Children who are problem solvers grow up to be adults who are problem solvers, and adults who are problem solvers can change the world.  Take this scene, for example, unfolding entirely without me.  The two children are four and five years old.

T: “Let’s pour the milk.  I’ll do two, and you do two.”
C: “Okay. I’ll do the yellows, and you do the purple and green.”
T: “Okay.”
C: “You can go first, since I went first at lunchtime.”
T: “Okay.”
T begins pouring, but gets excited and pours three instead of two.
C: “Oh!  Now I only have one.  You did three and I only have one.”
T: “Oh.  Sorry Cadence.  Oh, wait, I have an idea.  What if I pour this one back in, and then you can pour it.”
C: “Great idea.  Make sure to pour it slowly.”

2.  Children are driven to connect, and children who are allowed to connect grow emotionally integrated.  And emotionally integrated adults can change the world.  Consider this conversation we had a few mornings ago…

C: “I had a scary dream last night. A bear punched his arm through my door and tried to come into my room.”
T. “I had a scary dream last night, too.  A monkey punched his arm through my door and tried to come into my room.”
S. “I had a dream last night.”
H. “I went to the zoo and saw a monkey.”
C. “Did you see a peacock?”
H. “Yes.  He had big feathers.”

Here is what I observed over our breakfast meal. Either the kids were having extraordinarily similar dreams, or something else was at work. (My bet is on the latter.)  When the crew and I chat over meals, the conversation tends to flow like a stream – one subject melds into the next, with enough similarity between them that the flow is seamless.  As children learn to be in relationship with others, they are strongly motivated to find that thread of connection – where do I end and you begin?  What parts of us overlap?  If you had a dream about a bear, I want to connect with you in that experience.  You had a dream about a monkey?  I got to see a monkey!

Engaged exploration with seeds, rocks, and small scoopers

3.  Children are compelled to learn for the sake of learning.  And this is probably the single biggest motivator I find.  Children who are driven to learn for the sake of learning will grow into adults who are independently motivated, and independently motivated adults will change the world.  For a child, there is no will this be on the test? or why do we have to learn this?  There is nothing wrong with identifying a motivator for learning new things, in fact, this disposition is what helps adults distill understanding.  But for me, as someone who loves learning, I find incredible joy in accompanying children through this process.

You see, my passion is that in connecting with young children, and growing their skills for problem solving, their capacity to connect with others, and ignite their quest for lifelong learning, I am shaping a generation of young people who will grow up to change the world.  This is no small challenge, and no small contribution.  So on the days when the needs are great, I remember my passion, and my work morphs into something much greater than whatever small task is making me crazy.

May passion guide your work.  Share your stories of passion in the comments below.

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12 thoughts on “A Plea for Passion

  1. Curtis

    Isn’t it amazing how our lives can take such divergent paths from where we thought we were heading… I was sure I’d be a coach, sports director, or even a military man, but now I’m working with the young people and their families that no one else knows what to do with… and I too am passionate about believing in them. I’ve been working with a 17 year old girl who has spent the last 2 years in foster care (in a residential treatment facility). Strangely enough, she began acting out when her mom’s boyfriend severely beat her, which ended up sending the boyfriend and her mom to jail. Her mom was recently released from prison and I had the chance to work towards their reunification (which for obvious reasons was a very delicate matter). They have been working towards bettering their lives together and decided that the 17 yr old needed to complete her GED. Well not one GED program in our area would take the girl in because they remembered her from her acting out years before (one lady is in charge of all the GED programs around here). It was maddening! But we all worked hard and found a GED program in another town about 30 miles away. We arranged for transportation and would you believe that the girl is doing great!? I could go on and on… our kids growing up in out-of-home placements have amazing stories and incredible talents to match! I am passionately passionate about their well-being! (Is this what your looking for? I’ve got 50 more stories just like this!) ;o)

  2. Melanie Seier

    Another wonderful post! Always refreshing to my soul to read your blog, and a challenge…you ignite the passion in me to be a better ME for my crew. I am so thankful for the way you teach me to allow my kids to be who they are and to listen to them with love.

  3. Sarah

    Love this post! Especially the conversations between the children!

  4. Sherry

    I am delighted to find other passionate people who work with and love children…thinking about what is best for them!

    So, I’m excited to say that I’m going to be a new grandma. It’s been 29 years since my last child! What “gear” does she need to have on hand? I’m trying to impress upon her that a baby does not need everything in the store.

    Thanks!

  5. eleanor

    hey i really want to do this. i totally agree about growing “better” humans, who can then start to grow a better world. how do i go about it? im starting volunteering in a childrens centre but i would appreciate any tips or resources you could recommend. thanx for the inspiration!

    • Thanks, Eleanor! I think the single biggest gift we can give to the children in our care is the gift of our presence. Taking the time to be truly present with children – no distractions – communicates that their pursuits are worthwhile! As much as possible, honoring their impulses communicates that their quest for learning is significant. I hope you are subscribed to this blog…I have new thoughts on these topics frequently. Have you seen the Abundant Life Children facebook page yet? There, I link to all kinds of other intentional, respectful care providers who would give you fantastic suggestions. Check out R.I.E. (the work of Magda Gerber). Janet Lansbury (janetlansbury.com) and Lisa Sunbury (regardingbaby.org) offer fantastic ideas. Certainly check there. Best of luck! Emily

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